how marriage can be an oppressive institution

i understand how confusing it is that it took so god damn long

and i understand how many people think that politicians come out for the gays during election season, although i think this is false in terms of past presidents (do some research—-it won’t take long)

yet i also am grateful 

for this small step towards dismantling this fucking awful inequality

and i’m actually so sick of the constant divisions and judgment and call-outs that occur within the queer community, my OWN community. the topic of gay marriage can divide us——and it looks like it’s working, unfortunately. 

but it doesn’t have to. let’s respect that some of us want to get married and others don’t. as a queer woman, i want the option to get married and without being condescendingly told that i am buying into a system—don’t assume that my desire to get married and my pride for obama means that i do not understand the rampant problems within the campaign for gay marriage, including my recognition of my white, cis-gendered privilege. but also, do not call me out for desiring the LEGAL RIGHTS that come along the institution of marriage and the expectation that i, along with my straight family members and friends, can have a legal marriage if i want to. 

thanks.